Asking for help when you need it<\/h2>\n
I held the belief that asking for help was a sign of weakness. “I’m smart and motivated and should be able to figure out stuff on my own, right?”<\/em> I couldn’t have been further from the truth.<\/p>\n Asking for help, hiring a coach, and finding a community of like-minded designers who are interested in exploring new perspectives has been the start of a whole new journey for me.<\/p>\n A second insight…<\/strong><\/p>\n Before I asked for help, I thought I needed coaching on leadership, or how to take more action. I thought I didn’t know what action to take.<\/p>\n That wasn’t really it at all.<\/em><\/p>\n I didn’t have an understanding of my thoughts and feelings and what was really going on for me. I didn’t know what my intentions were. I had so many stories and drama in my head about what was happening to me. (And, I was thinking some pretty disempowering thoughts!)<\/em><\/p>\n My first big a-ha<\/em> moment was when I was complaining about something I needed to do for my job and my coach offered the suggestion that I didn’t have to do it. We all have free will and can choose what we want to do. “But I have<\/em> to,” I said to her. What would happen if you didn’t? she asked. (I admit, my head exploded at the thought of not doing it!<\/em>)<\/p>\n What’s the worse that could happen? Would I lose my job? No, probably not<\/em>. I started to understand I often did what I thought other people wanted me to do. I was thinking one thing and doing another, I did things I didn’t want to do and then I acted like a victim.<\/p>\n The huge insight…<\/strong><\/p>\n When I started setting healthy boundaries and taking care of myself rather than people pleasing, I created entirely new situations and experiences for myself. You can show up being the person you want to be rather than playing a victim and blaming others.<\/p>\n Three big lessons I learned during the very beginning of my journey were: asking for help when you need it, self-awareness is key, and taking responsibility for yourself. All three created dramatic changes in my life.<\/p>\n Do you need some help?<\/p>\nSelf-awareness is key<\/h2>\n
Taking responsibility for yourself<\/h2>\n
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