I watched myself make up untrue stories in my head and became impatient because of my thoughts about “all the things that aren’t done.”<\/p>\n
I felt overwhelmed.<\/p>\n
I tried to change the situation and to control someone else.<\/p>\n
I felt the urge to reduce my discomfort. It was an attempt to feel better.<\/p>\n
We’re familiar with urges when it comes to things like weight management; trying to resist the urge to eat chocolate or to snack at night.<\/p>\n
But we also have urges when it comes to other emotions and managing ourselves.<\/p>\n
My actions were caused by my feelings of discomfort, with the intention to temporarily relieve my discomfort by changing the situation, or to control the other person.<\/p>\n
Instead of taking responsibility for our thoughts and feelings, we often blame others when we’re not able to manage our own minds.<\/p>\n
When we experience an urge caused by our thoughts and feelings we’re missing the opportunity to act with real intention and integrity.<\/p>\n
Will this behavior produce the intended result?<\/p>\n
Unlikely.<\/p>\n
Do you like how you showed up if it does?<\/p>\n
Is this who you want to be?<\/p>\n
How can we best act from integrity? \u00e2\u20ac\u201d By watching our thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n
What are your emotional urges?<\/strong><\/p>\n Instead of understanding what’s going on for us, we often seek fast, temporary relief from our feelings.<\/p>\n My “go-to” emotional urges are to feel disappointment ahead of time, to people please, to take on a victim mentality. (To name just a few \ud83d\ude42 )<\/p>\n Watch and be aware of your urges. What are their negative or unintended consequences?<\/p>\n Be sure you are always in a place of compassion, understanding, and love, when learning about yourself. You cannot beat yourself up in an attempt to change.<\/p>\n Your mind likes to be efficient, so once it has thought the same patterns over and over again, it requires practice and skill to change.<\/p>\n If you’re trying to change your thought patterns, you’ll need to practice patience. You’re in a battle with your own mind, and when it’s you against your old patterns, you’re always going to lose unless you’re patient with yourself.<\/p>\n In order to understand ourselves better, we can take responsibility for our thoughts and practice new ways of thinking.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I lost my mind I watched myself make up untrue stories in my head and became impatient because of my thoughts about “all the things that aren’t done.” I felt overwhelmed. I tried to change the situation and to control someone else.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5170,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5073","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mindset"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/losing-mind.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pwwLa-1jP","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5073"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5073"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5073\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6165,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5073\/revisions\/6165"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5170"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5073"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5073"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5073"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}What to do<\/h2>\n