{"id":5764,"date":"2022-06-14T16:08:07","date_gmt":"2022-06-14T23:08:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/?p=5764"},"modified":"2023-11-01T04:01:23","modified_gmt":"2023-11-01T11:01:23","slug":"difficult-boss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/difficult-boss\/","title":{"rendered":"Difficult People?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you find yourself struggling with difficult people?<\/strong><\/p>\n

“He makes me so mad.”
\n“My boss is difficult.”
\n“She doesn’t understand me, she doesn’t listen.”
\n“He’s such a narcissist.”<\/p>\n

Maybe your boss is always telling you what to do and doesn’t know how to give constructive feedback.<\/p>\n

He makes you so mad that you go home frustrated every night.<\/p>\n

There’s the narcissist coworker who you can’t stand to be around.<\/p>\n

Do you have a loved one who frustrates you?<\/p>\n

Maybe she doesn’t understand you, and says judgmental things and doesn’t give you the support you need.<\/p>\n

You feel like you’re surrounded by difficult people who make it hard on you, who zap your energy and affect your mood.<\/p>\n

But it doesn’t have to be this way!<\/strong><\/p>\n

There’s another way to look at these situations that you probably haven’t considered.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to feel this way about your work, your colleagues, and the other important people in your life.<\/p>\n

What are your thoughts?<\/h2>\n

What are you thinking?<\/em><\/p>\n

You may be thinking “I’m thinking my boss is a jerk.”<\/p>\n

If only your boss would change, your problem would be solved.<\/p>\n

But that requires a lot of hope and wishes.<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s simply not possible to change people.<\/p>\n

And, it’s not in your best interest (or very empowering) to think that the only way you can feel better is if someone else changes.<\/p>\n

What’s a more empowering approach?<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can shift your perspective, and feel better, by experimenting with different thoughts about your experience.<\/p>\n

You can choose to shift your thoughts for simply this reason — for your own benefit.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This may sound like you’re letting people off the hook for bad behavior, but when you think “my boss is a jerk” this produces feelings like resentment, anger, and frustration for no one else but you!<\/p>\n

You’re giving your boss power over you and how you feel. You probably think s\/he already has it, and you’ve just given your boss even more!<\/em><\/p>\n

You’re the first to benefit from any shift in your thoughts.<\/p>\n

But this takes practice.<\/p>\n

We’ve been taught by society to think that our feelings are caused by other people. How many times have you thought “he hurt my feelings.”<\/p>\n

But this just simply isn’t the case.<\/p>\n

Take a closer look at the thoughts you have about the people in your life.<\/p>\n

You can make minor shifts that produce great rewards, shifts that benefit you and will make an impact on your life.<\/p>\n

I want to tell you more about it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Do you find yourself struggling with difficult people? “He makes me so mad.” “My boss is difficult.” “She doesn’t understand me, she doesn’t listen.” “He’s such a narcissist.” Maybe your boss is always telling you what to do and doesn’t know how to give constructive feedback.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5778,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[55],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mindset"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/difficult-people.jpg","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pwwLa-1uY","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5764"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5764"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5764\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6156,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5764\/revisions\/6156"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5778"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5764"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5764"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jamiecavanaugh.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5764"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}